How To Write An Essay Without Crying

Kath and I are teaming up to answer the last two questions posed to WU on characterization. I’ll tackle one now, and Kath will be on later to answer the final question.

The first comes from Vic, who suggested this topic after Plot month (February) came to an end.

How do you go about making your readers cry?

To explain; I was surprised to discover some of the writers I had thought would have had a more organic process to plotting actually wrote out very systematic plots and so I’m wondering – since some of the same authors have made me sob my heart out – do they use a logical process to bring me to tears?

It is my sneaking suspicion that this is something that comes naturally to many writers. I think maybe you can do it, or you can’t.

But if there is a secret, I want in!

I should note, and I think it is interesting, that if you google any variety of ,’how to give your characters emotion,’ you end up with a bunch of substance-less essays. I’ve read all of them. They’re a collection of platitudes that end up with ‘get inside your character’. The closest and most useful information out there is about the order emotion falls in; event, emotional reaction, physical action. But that’s too simplistic, at least I think it is.

Oh and don’t get me wrong, I’m not a beginner writer. And maybe that’s the problem; the information out there is basic and starts with such inanities as, ‘use rain in the setting mimic sadness’. *eyeball roll*

I thought about this question–and several stories that have made me cry–for a long while. How might you invest a reader so deeply in a character’s journey that the line between reality and fiction blurs?

Note: I’ll be discussing some critical points in a novel that not only made me cry, it made me sob. And by sob, I mean SOB. This book slayed me: Audrey Niffenegger’s The Time Traveler’s Wife. If you haven’t read the book, be warned: There are spoilers ahead. (Why haven’t you read the book? Go read the book!)


1. Create a character we care about, who has struggled with something we can identify with. By identify, I don’t necessarily mean that they’re dealing with something that could happen to us, or that has happened to us. Just that we understand what’s happened, and we can relate to the steps that person took—whether desperate or valiant—to cope with their situation.

Let’s consider The Time Traveler’s Wife. Can readers identify with being a man who time travels due to a genetic flaw? Yes. I could imagine the strange experience that was Henry’s life, and Niffenegger made sense of his responses to his situation.

2. Create primal stakes for that character. Blake Snyder, author of a highly recommended screenwriting/storytelling book, Save the Cat, tells us that every great story taps into primal elements. Here’s his explanation:

Primal, primal, primal!
Once you’ve got the hero, the motivation for the hero to succeed must be a basic one. What does X want? Well, if it’s a promotion at work, it better damn well be related to winning the hand of X’s beloved or saving up enough money to get X’s daughter an operation. And if it’s a match-up with an enemy, it better well lead to a life-or-death showdown, not just a friendly spitball fight.


It’s because primal urges get our attention. Survival, hunger, sex, protection of loved ones, fear of death grab us.

The best ideas and the best characters in the lead roles must have basic needs, wants, and desires. Basic, basic!


And when it comes to who to cast in your screenplay, we respond best to stories of husbands and wives, fathers and daughters, mothers and sons, ex-boyfriends and girlfriends. Why? Because we all have these people in our lives! You say “father” and I see my father. You say “girlfriend” and I see my girlfriend. We all have ’em — and it gets our attention because of that. It’s an immediate attention-getter because we have a primal reaction to those people, to those words even! So when in doubt, ground your characters in the most deep-seated imagery you can. Make it relevant to us. Make is something that every caveman (and his brother) will get.

Make it, say it with me now…primal!

Back to my example, are Henry’s stakes primal? Absolutely. Survival, hunger and fear of death are just a few of the things he has to contend with whenever he time travels. Add to that, we become intimately acquainted with Henry’s wife, Clare–the co-protagonist of the book. We feel her lifelong fear for Henry, and we can identify with that, too. Primal. Real.

(Psst, you can read more about Blake and his great book in my interview with him. Check out part one, HERE.)

3. Plot a difficult journey. Your protagonist’s struggles should continue to escalate through the story, as s/he actively tries to end whatever is tormenting him/her. We’re invested at this point, especially because we don’t know how things will resolve and failure seems as likely as success.

In TTW, Henry’s time travels become even more dangerous for him as time passes; his body endures more violence. Can the doctor he’s found possibly develop a cure for Henry’s disorder? And will Henry and Clare ever be able to have a child whose embryo-self doesn’t spontaneously travel, aborting itself?

4. Surprise us. As you close in on the story’s culmination, consider adding a surprise that relates to the character’s primal goal: the death of a character, maybe, or an unanticipated success. You’ve been taking the reader down one road–hope? certain failure?–and now you yank them onto another. This invests them that much more in your story.

In TTW, Henry has been working hard with his doctor to find a remedy for his faulty genes. Suddenly everything is called into question as Henry forsees not only his death–but runs into his future daughter.

5. Create a moment. Maybe it’s something visual and startling, but whatever it is, we recognize it as The Primal Ultimate. This is where the protagonist will find success or failure.

When I consider TTW, two images come to mind. The first is Clare twining her limbs around her husband just seconds before she knows he’ll vanish and go to his death in another time. The second is the afterimage–Henry on the floor of their home, surrounded by their friends, bleeding. Dying.

I believe this is the moment that has the greatest potential to make your readers cry, as long as you also—

6. Deal authentically with human emotions. Avoid sappy, but don’t shy away from the desperation we as humans can feel when we’re thisclose to winning or losing it all. What will your protagonist do and say at this point? It’s here that s/he may become, truly, a hero. It might be a moment of enlightenment, but it should always strip your character down to bare Essence. Be true to it.

About TTW: SOB.

Readers, do you have anything to add?

Kath will be up in a bit. Until then, write on, all!

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Currently, I'm writing a 20-mark Higher Modern Studies essay and have burst into tears at least twice because I'm convinced I'm going to fail it as a subject. I remember doing this when I was writing essays for revision for my NAT5s.

So, question 1: how do you keep yourself writing the damn essay? I keep stopping and not being able to motivate myself to start again because I don't want to write it. (Yes, I've not finished the essay and am procrastinating on it right now with this post. Whoops.)

Also, question 2: how the heck do you not cry while writing essays? I don't seem to be able to write an essay for anything but Psychology without crying. I spent my entire revision time for NAT5 maths crying a lot, and it just wasted so much time. I don't want to waste so much time this year.

1) assign yourself 25 minutes to work non-stop on your essay. 25 minutes is, if you will, the optimum time your brain can process things. if, after these 25 minutes, you're still not done - take a quick 5 minute break to stretch your legs + step outside for a little bit to cool off. then resume. after you've done two 25 minute slots (+ one 5 min break) and youre still not done - take a long 25 min break. repeat this process - it's known as the pomodoro method if you'd like to do more research into it :^) set yourself a reward for when you're finished. say, 'once i'm finished this essay i'll watch some tv / browse tumblr / etc etc' and you'll find your more focused if you have something to work towards.

2) idek about this one. i dont think i've ever not cried upon seeing a piece of paper hahaha. take your time, maybe? listen to some calming music?

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